The “girlfriend shield” that enables me to be my normal “unlimited-friendly” high-energy self is gone and I’m readily annoyed at the prospect of bottling up my emotions to not scare people off.
My friends group is of course dissipating and I’m not at the top of anyone’s list to hang out with anymore…
The first thing I noticed is just how small the dating pool is if you limit it to a town like CU (25 mile radius in my case).
Although OKCupid is not a poly-focused site, the consensus seems to be that its intuitive personality matching system and its large pool of open-minded users make it one of the best dating sites out there.
The one date that came out of it revealed a lot of what online chat can’t reveal so I quit it and found someone in real-life and it was great.
This time around, after considerable insistence by friends and my sister that online dating has changed and can really work, I’m giving it a go.
Anyway this post isn’t so much about my happiness, that’s been going up and down (which is good? Nope this one is about psuedo-social-science observations of ICT-mediated-dysfunction!
Last time I tried online dating I quickly became frustrated with sending out dozens of messages and never receiving any responses or having anyone seek me out to initiate conversation.
Yep, I’m still fearlessly (able-white-male-privilegely? I used my actual name as my username (Jeff Ginger) and wrote robust (but not too long?